Thursday, October 3, 2013

Capture Your Grief: Day 3 - Myths

"Time Heals All Wounds"

Nope. It doesn't. Time does heal wounds, but only to a certain extent. These are wounds that will never go away. Will they heal? Yes. Will I always be deeply scarred? Yes. This is one of my least favorite "meant to be comforting" statements. It is basically telling a grieving mom that someday, she will not feel pain about losing her child.

Think about it (even though it's hard). 

If your infant, toddler, teenager or grown child died, would you not be completely devastated? Would you want someone to tell you that eventually you'll get over it? I don't ever want to be over my son. Just like loving my living children, I will always love Carter as well. And I will always wish that he could be here with us. Time does change wounds, but it will never make them go away.

If you are interested, here's another post I wrote awhile back about words and their impact on a grieving family.

1 comment:

  1. SO true Hear on earth time will not heal. Thank God we will have forever with our children in Heaven to make up for the lost years here. I Love that you said you DO NOT WANT to be over you son...I agree 100%!