Thursday, October 25, 2012

Capture Your Grief: Day 22, 23 & 24

Day 22. Place of Care/Birth The place that looked after your you whilst you were pregnant. Share a photo of those who took care of you and your baby. This could be a midwife/doula/friend/partner.

The boys were born at UW in Seattle, 2 hours away from home. I spent a few weeks there on bedrest and then it was our home for the next 4 months while Cohen was in the NICU. 

Day 23. Their Name/Their Photo If you feel comfortable, share a photo of your baby/ies/child/ren who you are remembering this month. If you do not have photos, you could use an ultrasound image or something that represents them.

The sweetest little feet you ever did see. I remember when he was born thinking how big his feet were and how long his toes were. And yet they are so itty bitty. I made one of these for Cohen for his room and I made one for Carter to put in his memory book as well.

Day 24. Siblings This could be done two ways – your could photograph your own siblings and post about how grief has affect them or you can post about your other living children. I know that not everyone has living children but I felt it was important to include the children who are left here to grieve their brothers and sisters. Capture a sibling, niece or nephew’s grief. Maybe you could share a drawing they have done or even just a photo of them holding something that represents their brother or sister that they are missing. Give them a voice here.

Cohen isn't old enough yet for us to know how all of this affects him and how it will play out in his life. We know that we are going to talk about Carter and he will always be a part of our lives. But we don't know how Cohen will choose to handle it all. I wrote a little about raising a twinless twin on a previous blog post.

1 comment:

  1. That last picture is both heartwarming and heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing!