Saturday, October 6, 2012

Day 6: What Not to Say

Day 6. What Not To Say Have you had something terrible said to you in the wake of your loss, write it on a piece of paper – photograph it – vent it.

I wrote a post awhile back about what not to say, which is here. But the challenge for this photo was to write it out to take a picture.


  1. I can't believe that people told you these things. How horrible! I have not experienced loss so I can only imagine how awful it must be to hear these things. I do agree with you however on the "It's all part of God's plan" type comments. I remember being told this when mine were in the NICU or "God has a plan" etc. I really wanted to tell these people - "No this is not God's plan. His plan was for mothers to carry their babies in their womb for 40 weeks. It's a marvelous plan. They come out breathing and ready to eat. This is not his plan!"

    I think this project on capturing your grief is beautiful. I can only imagine that you sharing your story and grief so openly is helping other moms who have experienced a loss. My prayers are with you.

  2. Those are all awful, but I absolutely cannot imagine anyone ever saying the last one. What on earth?

  3. awful....i am thankful for the grace God gives us to not hurt these people......honestly they mean well, they just have NO idea. So sorry you had to process through these hurtful comments......

  4. I was told by a family friend "It'll be ok, you already have a beautiful daughter and you can always make another."