tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post8442077037402850669..comments2023-05-21T01:24:23.709-07:00Comments on Keeping Up with the Kimmels: An Un-perfect Birth StoryThe Kimmelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02822076540485203983noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-32686443267658307252012-08-17T00:01:17.951-07:002012-08-17T00:01:17.951-07:00Beautifully worded. Obviously I have never experi...Beautifully worded. Obviously I have never experienced what you have, but I can relate to needing to bite my tongue rather than sharing my birth story with every new mom. Hugs! Mama Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03956579568061258585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-31206142370207095602012-08-14T20:13:06.278-07:002012-08-14T20:13:06.278-07:00You took the words out of my mouth and heart. We l...You took the words out of my mouth and heart. We lost our second son Carter in April. I was also very naive in the fact that I thought it would never happen to us and then it did. I don't have words of wisdom except to say I totally understand.... To the core of me. Ashley Dobbshttp://www.ashleydobbs.scentsy.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-39369250257641447172012-08-14T11:22:36.590-07:002012-08-14T11:22:36.590-07:00Having one diagnosis after another: infertility, b...Having one diagnosis after another: infertility, blood clotting disorder, progesterone disorder and incompetent cervix makes me a walking example of who not to talk to when pregnant. I have always hated wearing a badge of shame for being "broken". Maybe because I went through it twice I had two totally different experiences. When we lost Adam I told no one outside of my close family and friends any of the details or my feelings. I often kept everything quiet for their comfort level. When we lost the girls I had enough of that and began to be an advocate for others who have been in the same boat. You are so right as parents of angel babies we totally stick together and understand each other so much better than the outside population do. I have been one of the lucky ones who has never heard the awful things people say out of discomfort and ignorance. The last thing, twin pregnancies are high risk and I get tired of hearing otherwise from the general population. I hate hearing, "wouldn't it be fun to have twins?" Um no. Not.So.Much.<br /><br />Thanks for being honest and telling the true story, The Kimmel Family story.The Pollardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02698819405473683983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-34386473399739673652012-08-14T05:02:00.619-07:002012-08-14T05:02:00.619-07:00I feel the same way. I dread when someone asks ab...I feel the same way. I dread when someone asks about Zachary's birth. I feel like I'm lying if I don't include Parker, I feel like i'm letting him down, or forgetting about him. Which, I'd never do! But, sometimes I don't want to get into the entire story. Being that Parker's water broke, parker is the one who wanted out, Zachary wanted nothing to do with being born. When people ask, "why did you go into labor so early" not including parker is/was nearly impossible. Now, I can mostly just say, I had pre-E and it was the safest thing for Zachary to born and leave it at that. Its hard. Its hard to everyday look at your baby and know that there should be someone else crawling around with him.<br /><br />Sometimes, I dont want to share my story because I don't want to make others sad... But, in reality, sad happens. Sad happened to us. And, it is our story, its more than our story its our life. Heatherhttp://miraclesmakingmommies.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-7919669906862243942012-08-13T21:40:24.160-07:002012-08-13T21:40:24.160-07:00loved this post, Jana.loved this post, Jana.Tatumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-25505729268143542732012-08-13T20:09:07.899-07:002012-08-13T20:09:07.899-07:00So true...thank you for posting this! Love to you ...So true...thank you for posting this! Love to you sweet mama! Elle's mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01149604810301979534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-61967768647694631092012-08-13T19:31:50.887-07:002012-08-13T19:31:50.887-07:00I find myself going through phases of wanting/not ...I find myself going through phases of wanting/not wanting to tell our birth story. At first, I didn't want to talk about it to anyone. Then, I was in the mode of telling perfect strangers the entire story at the slightest chance of sharing because I wanted everyone to know. Now, I'm back to a place of not wanting to tell the whole story over and over. When people ask me how old my 2 yr old is who weighs 22 lbs and looks like a 1 year old, they look shocked when I say 2. They usually say, "She's so tiny" or something like that. Instead of saying, "Yeah well you should have seen her when she weighed a pound," I just say, "yes, she is". Maybe I'll move back into "shouting it from the mountaintop" mode again. Who knows? I think it's up to you and whatever stage you are in to share what you want and with whom you want at any time.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15909067457868282757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-73321314345256670352012-08-13T19:20:43.658-07:002012-08-13T19:20:43.658-07:00This was such a sore spot for me for at least 2 ye...This was such a sore spot for me for at least 2 years after Jack's birth. So I definitely hear you. It's very hard when people's lives go on. Some refuse to really, really get to know your story (for whatever reason) and then you will find those true friends who want to hear your story and to KNOW your story. Jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00253576467920143167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2837703357651074624.post-7883269474804719862012-08-13T14:18:07.995-07:002012-08-13T14:18:07.995-07:00That is hard, Jana. When I was pregnant with Mala...That is hard, Jana. When I was pregnant with Malachi, I didn't want to hear any negative stories because I was already so nervous. But this time around, I've accepted that whatever happens to me and my baby is (mostly) out of my hands. And I loved hearing your birth story, and would love to hear it again if ever you wanted to share it with me. I know for me, at least, it's nice to re-share what I went through sometimes. But I also know that our experiences were very different.Allie Dillingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169618317199002070noreply@blogger.com